By Gina Alzate, The Concept Whiz

I had an interesting conversation early this morning about boundaries and expectations in relationships.  At first, I was not sure where this discourse was headed or if it was at all in our best interest to continue as it was clear to both of us, neither of us knew for certain what the other was talking about.  Yet, we continued on our downward spiral to nothingness, both believing we were making our intelligent points of view known.

Then, it dawned on me, how we both were in search for someone to validate our points of view as we saw them.  Could anyone truly see how we see the world or come up with similar conclusions to make sense of our experiences?  I wonder how that could be true?  We all have differing points of references and relevant stories.  We all have different goals and aspirations.  We all have different forms of expressions and ways of communication.  Yet, somehow, we assume others would understand as we understand for ourselves the points we are making.  Then, we feel disappointed when our realities do not match our expectations.

Some things I’ve learned in life are… If I expect for anything to happen then I open myself up to disappointment unless I have come to accept some things are not meant to be as I wish them to be.  No matter how well we feel we have expressed ourselves, there will be someone who will beg to differ adamantly, not understand us at all or dismiss us completely.  Then, there will be others who will carry on with our conversation, yet they are not present with us or they are forming their own opinions without hearing ours, or come up with a totally different interpretation than originally meant.  Then, we wonder why we have misunderstandings, arguments, fights or feuds.

It took a conversation like the one I had this morning to remind me how people are truly on their own individual journeys.  There is no right or wrong on how we perceive the world.  On what basis could we judge an experience as bad or good?  How well could we really know anyone when we are still getting to know ourselves from the inside out? For now, I am content to think how our experiences with others serve as milestones to remind us how far we have come to understand ourselves fully.  How I feel about it is a totally different story!

About Gina Alzate

Gina Alzate is The Concept Whiz. She is Holistic Life Designs’ Metaphysical Therapy Educator. She is Host of several online radio talk shows and Broadcaster for World Radio 365. She is a lifelong student of Leadership and Empowerment, World Travels and Diverse Cultures, Metaphysics, Holistic Health and Spirituality. She teaches about human consciousness and personal awareness through radio broadcasting, writing and workshops on land and at sea. Contact her through World Tours and Cruises. Follow her on Twitter @GinaAlzate.